“I’m just a fucked up girl looking for my own peace of mind. I’m not perfect.”
– Clementine Kruczynski, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
That’s what we do after breakups. We look for our own peace of mind. We create a set of truths that resonate with our experience. It doesn’t mean our truths are accurate, but we pick the story that pulls us out of despair…that justifies our actions and the actions of the one “responsible” for our heartbreak.
But if you were to compare your story with your ex’s, the stories won’t match…they won’t even be in the same genre. So when mutual friends ask what happened, I always say that while I could tell a version of the story, his truth will not be the same as mine…and I’d rather leave his truth intact. Keep on reading…